Your Happiness Factor is about your general attitude across the weeks, months and even years.
I call it “the Happiness Factor” and it’s all about how you’re feeling the majority of the time. Sure, we all have ups, downs, frustrations, complications or days that are just a little blah. But your Happiness Factor (H-F) is about the bigger picture – your general attitude across the weeks, months and even years.
There’s no hard and fast rules about the H-F, no psychological studies (that I’m aware of, anyway) or definitive scale of measurement. It’s more of a subjective, personal thing. But you can get a pretty good handle on yours when you ask yourself a few simple questions.
A Few Simple Questions
If you answer yes to most of the question/statements below, you can be pretty sure your H-F is healthy.
1. When a problem comes up in my life, I am just as likely to see the opportunity in it as I am the challenge.
2. Unexpected or last minute changes don’t throw me for a loop. I can ‘roll with the punches’ when I need to.
3. I like to laugh and I laugh easily.
4. I get along with most people, most of the time.
5. I spend a lot of my social time with up-beat people.
6. I do my best not to complain, criticize or judge people and situations.
7. I look for things to appreciate.
8. I feel fit in my body and healthy in my mind most of the time.
9. I avoid worrying about the future or regretting the past.
10. It’s easy for me to smile.
Too Many ‘No’s’
But what if you didn’t answer yes to most of the questions above? Well then you, like so many peeps, may be mentally undermining your H-F through old habits of negative thinking. Please don’t feel bad. Because for way too long now, generations of peeps have trained their kids to look for things to fuss and worry about. Fear not, I say! All is not lost 🙂 Why? Because You can easily start turning those downward spiral habits into much more upbeat ideas. And when you do, happiness is an inevitable result.
5 Tips for Feeling Better
1. What you think is what you get. What you think about most of the time will inevitably effect how you feel. So the first order of business is to start taking command of your thoughts. And the simplest way to do this is to start paying attention. What are you thinking about when you drive to work, for example? Where does your mind wander during those ‘free’ periods when nothing pressing is calling you to focus? When you start really paying attention to your thoughts during these parts of the day, you’ll quickly see the connection between the quality of those ‘meaningless’ contemplations and the way you feel.
2. Change your mind. Once you get a good ‘bead’ on those unconscious habits of thought, it’s time to start kicking butt and taking names (or in this case, renaming :)) As you observe a negative thought, immediately say silently or aloud “Break!” And then replace the negative thought with it’s opposite, or with another thought that is positive. The more consistently you do this, the faster you’ll see change. Promise.
3. Look for the good. Now, cast your vision outward into the world with one very specific intent: to find things to praise. You can do this once a day or more. I recommend you start slowly and build. You can choose a time like the last 10 minutes of work, and then go for it! Maybe you appreciate your desk, the scarf your colleague is wearing, the new coffee maker, your reliable car, the way your boss can smile when she’s in a good mood, the afternoon sun streaming in a window. Try to come up with as many things as you can.
4. Do something nice. And do it anonymously if you can. When you do something nice for someone without any expectation of reward, you’ll be amazed at how wonderful it makes you feel! Try it, you’ll see.
5. Write it down. I like to do what I call ‘morning mania’, but you can do this any time. It’s kind of like #4, but you write things down. Take 10 minutes (or more) and write down every single thing you can think of that makes you smile. It could be as silly as having all your toes or as profound as knowing your Soul Purpose. Just write and write until you can feel your H-F burst right through the roof!
There are lots of other ways to improve your Happiness Factor, including obvious things like taking care of your physical health, and surrounding yourself with happy peeps. What are some of the ways you consciously lift yourself to a more positive mood? Let me know in the comments below.
Dawn DelVecchio Dawn DelVecchio is a writer, speaker and self-empowerment coach. She’s the author & host of DawnDelVecchio.com, where she shares insights, tips and practical tools for living a life of joy and abundance. Her eBook, The 7 Keys to Unlock your Soul’s Purpose is a simple guide to connect with your truest calling in this life. Dawn’s intent is to “Help people unlock the door to their soul’s calling so they can live in the joy and abundance they were meant for.”