How to change your Life in 3 Simple Steps
Let me ask you something: are you living your biggest, juiciest life? I mean, how happy are you with your home, your career, your relationships? Are you delighting in the satisfaction of these parts of living? Are you excited about the directions your heading? If not, then I’m going to ask you to do something that might seem a little scary – at first. If you want to know how to change your life, the answer is simple – although it might not be easy. If you’ve got courage my friend, then please read on …
A Courageous Woman
“Who me!?” I choked, when my lover said, “Dawn, you’re the most courageous person I know.” How could this be, I thought. And then I thought again. At 46, I’ve lived through plenty of ups and downs – and let me tell you, some of the ‘downers’ were a far cry from ‘juicy’ or ‘fun’. But here’s the thing: when my life stopped being satisfying at home, in my career(s) or my relationships, I didn’t sit by passively and complain (well, not for too long, anyway :)) Call me courageous or plain ole impatient with a life that’s anything less than my biggest, juiciest dream, but when I needed to, I made BIG changes.
Now I’m not advocating jumping from relationship to relationship, or job to job, but what I am suggesting is that by connecting with your inner guidance and being (sometimes brutally) honest with yourself, you can forge a big, fat juicy life designed by and for you. If I did it, I know you can too!
When the Writing’s on the Wall
When the proverbial writing was on the wall at several major junctures in my life, I employed 3 simple steps to make wonderful changes. It wasn’t always easy but let me tell you, it worked every time. I did it when, as a single mom, I moved my son and I across the country to start anew. I did it when I stepped into the boxing ring (yes, true – but another story entirely). I did it when I left what had once been a beautiful marriage that had gone very, sadly sour. I did it when I moved to the other side of the world and jump-started a career as a luxury travel writer just because it was my wild and crazy passion to do so. And I did it again when I moved a long, long way just to take another chance on love. It’s been like navigating a maze at times, (or maybe leaping off a cliff?) but in the end I can say for sure that my life is, well, big and juicy, and I’m so thankful to myself for the bold moves I was willing to make using these 3 steps.
The 3 ‘simple-but-not-easy’ steps?
1. Listen within: Before anything else, create a regular time and place in your life for contemplation, meditation or reflection. This isn’t about trying to figure things out with your left brain. Nor is it about indulging in emotionally charged thoughts about what’s making you unhappy. This is about observing your thoughts, reflections and experiences and staying receptive to higher guidance that may come in the form of intuitive insights, images or impressions out of ‘left field’ or those lovely ‘coincidences’ that tend to repeat themselves. The more willing you are to consistently allow quiet time for reflecting on ‘what next?’ the quicker the answers will come.
2. Be honest: with yourself. What’s working? What’s not working? Where are you compromising or ‘settling’ for less than what you’re wanting? What scares you about making change in this part of your life? These are the questions to ask yourself. And if you want to super-charge the process, write the questions down and then answer them without ‘mentally editing’. You might be surprised at what comes out!
3. Take action: They say that the bigger the risk, the greater the reward. And it does seem to be true. When you are willing to play it BIG in life, life has a way of ‘showing up’ for you. Calculating your risks and a little bit of planning is great. So if your current career path appears to be headed to a dead end, do a little research. Are there other opportunities in the field of your passion? Is there a need for a genius idea you’ve got that you can make happen on your own? How would this look if it was your biggest, bestest, juiciest career? Getting feedback from sensible friends who truly want to see you live in your joy is also a good idea. Once you’ve got your vision shaped and clear, along with the first 2-3 steps you’ll take, it’s time to leap! This is when you want to be sure to put your all into your action. Heart, soul, passion and belief are the support system for the actions you take, so that if doubt or second-guessing step in, you can send them packing.
Where in your life do you need to make a big juicy change? What will it look like once you’ve taken action to make it the biggest and bestest it can be? Share your dream with me in the comments below.
Dawn DelVecchio is a writer, speaker, self-empowerment coach, and teacher of Sacred Self-Knowing. She’s also the author & host of The Healer’s Way, a blog dedicated to Alternative & Energy Healing. Dawn’s sacred mission in life is to “Help people unlock the door to their soul’s greatest calling.” Her writing, teaching and workshops are lively, playful, content-rich & deeply transformative.